When your boyfriend tells you he needs a break, what causes him to change in your mind from the guy you date, to superman? Once he is out of your life, you feel you cannot live your life without him. This is the same guy that a the day before the breakup, had plenty of things you would like to change about him, but now he is perfect. You used to nag him and some of the things he did made you want to scream, but suddenly you are calling him day and night wanting him to come back.

What has changed is the fact that you miss him and fear that he is gone for good. If you could only have another chance, you would never find fault with him again. This is a normal reaction when you think you have lost something or someone. You become desperate to get back what you have lost. The most effective way to make your ex boyfriend feel he cannot live without you and love you again is to make him miss you and feel he might have lost you. If you can do that, he will become desperate to get you back.

The way to do that is to stop chasing him and make him think you have accepted the breakup and you are moving on. Ignore him completely and show him you can have a life without him. This will take all of your will p ower and strength, but if you have the patience and determination he will come running back. Look at it this way, if he was a small boy throwing a tantrum, you would send him to his room and act as if he did not exist and soon he would straighten up. But, if you cried and begged him to behave, he would act worse.

This is what is happening with your ex boyfriend. He is throwing a tantrum and if you ignore him, he will wonder if you still love him. He will get tired of being by himself and want to see what is going on that he might be missing. He will probably send you an email and ask you how you are doing. This will be his way of seeing how anxious you are to have him back. If you answer right away, he will know he has nothing to worry about and he can let you suffer a little longer. So, do not answer his email at all.

When you do not answer his email, he will call, but let him leave a message. Allow this go on for a few days and then return his call. Tell him that you have been too busy to get back to him until now but it is always good to hear from an old friend. Calling him an old friend will really make him crazy. No guy wants to be just an old friend to the woman he thought was still in love with him. It will also challenge him to get you back and soon you will find him chasing you again.