When you feel you have lost the love of your life, you want to make your ex boyfriend wild for you again. But you forget what made him wild about you to begin with. You feel that since you have had a relationship, things are different. They are, to a certain extent, but you are still the little girl that dreamed of her perfect soul mate and he is still the macro guy that wanted to fly to mars. That makes you different in a very important way and you will always be different in that way. To get your ex back you need to remember these differences and use these vital tips to pull him back to your arms.

When you first met him, you were looking for your dream man, that you could have a future with. You were thinking of a long term commitment and he was thinking of sex. That is the way men are. They are attracted by the physical appearance of a woman first and love comes later. But he does not want the woman to just fall into his arms and scream that she will always love him. He wants to be challenged and feel the thrill of victory when he finally catches her. If you had a relationship and not just a brief sexual encounter with your man, it was because you played hard to get and made him chase you.

Getting back the man of your dreams is no different than getting him in the first pla ce. First you will have to attract him to you again, and so you will need to look very desirable the next time he sees you. This might mean getting a make over at a good salon. A new hairdo, manicure and a tan. Then some shopping for clothes that will accent your new look. When you are looking gorgeous and desirable, go out with some friends and have a good time. Be sure to stop by the places your ex hangs out and give him a good look at what he is missing. This will really catch him by surprise because he was sure you were at home moping around and waiting for him to call.

Your next move is to disappear. Go on a vacation or visit out of town relatives. If that is not possible, at least stay out of his sight. When he has had a few days to get over his shock, he will be in contact with you. First will probably be an email to ask you how you are doing. Do not answer it. He is just checking to see how anxious you are to get him back. If you do not answer it, he will call. Let him leave a message. After he has left several messages, call him back and say you have been too busy to get back to him until now. If he wants to meet you for coffee, hesitate and tell him you are pretty busy.

Now, you are back where you started with him. He is attracted to you and you are playing hard to get. All that remains to get your man back is to let him chase you until you decide to let him catch you again.