After a breakup, pulling your ex boyfriend back will seem like climbing a mountain. He has rejected you and made you feel unwanted , but you told him a bout a few of his faults too. At first you were angry and thought about getting revenge, but now you just want him back. It is good you gave up the idea of getting revenge because it never accomplishes anything. Now that you have settled down and you are thinking more clearly, you can use male psychology to regain his love.

Not only is getting revenge a bad idea, but there are many other mistakes you need to avoid if you want your ex back. In your panic to get him back before he finds another love, you may become obsessed. You will make regaining his love the focus of your life. That will make you a person that no one wants to be around. You will not be able to talk of anything but your ex and you will find your friends avoiding you.

Learning how to pull your ex boyfriend back instead of pushing him away, will take some discipline. You also need to realize that he does not want to talk things over right now. Any attempt to communicate with him will result in more rejection and pain for you. Staying in his face and telling him you cannot live without him will make him see you as weak and desperate.

When he f irst met you he was attracted to a woman who was happy and independent and that is the woman you need to show him now. When you met him, you thought you had found the man of your dreams and you fell deeply in love. That caused you to change. You did not want to lose him, so you tried too hard to make him happy. You became too available and he started taking you for granted.

Men are natural hunters and they can become easily bored. The need for a challenge is always with them and when you become too available, he seeks another challenge. That is when he will tell you that he needs space or a break. What he has in mind is keeping you on hold while he checks out the scene. Your ex wants to go have some fun, date other women and know you are there waiting if things do not work out.

That will make a great situation for him, but you will be sitting around waiting for him to call. You cannot let that happen. If you want to pull your ex boyfriend back, you have to show him you are not waiting. Let him know that he is not the only one that can go out and check out the scene. Don't start dating other guys, but get with your friends and go out for some fun. Flirt with other guys and get them interested in you.

When the ex boyfriend that dumped you hears about your activities, he will realize he could lose you. He will realize that you have become the only challenge he needs.