All too often, men all over the world deal with the "nice guy" problem. Treating women nicely seems to be the thing they should do but then they end up stuck in the friend zone with all the women they know. It doesn't make sense, after all: why would women want to be in relationships with guys who treat them badly? It seems a contradictory idea and doesn't make much sense at first glance, to anyone.

In reality, it isn't the fact that these bad boys treat them badly that keeps women attracted to them. That is just unhealthy thinking and a women in a relationship like that clearly lacks respect for herself. It is actually the personalities of these men that women want: the confidence and aggression that proves these men will be good providers in their relationships.

Nice guys who feel stuck in relationships with women need to think less about the fact that they're too nice, and more that they need to work on confidence and self esteem. Don't be mean to women; that is not the way to get them to be attracted to you.

The thing nice guys should think about is the parts of themselves that women will find attractive. Confidence and self esteem may be lacking. Even a lot of guys who are smart and do have things to feel confident about simply feel lacking. Their high intellects may be what get them into problems in their relationships in the first place; they over think things and don't act on their impulses enough.

Nice guys don't have to finish last; they simply need to think about themselves more to succeed in relationships. Respecting oneself is the beginning of confidence. Nice guys must respect themselves, and then respect for women will follow. They must get rid of the nice guy idea all together and instead think of themselves as confidence and successful people who can attract women and be successful in relationships.

Focusing on the positive parts of oneself in this way is a big part of being successful in relationships, period. Women will be more at ease with guys who are confident and comfortable in their own skins and don't fret about everything. Guys who respect and listen to them are a big plus. Many guys don't succeed in relationships simply because they don't know how to listen to women well. They are too focused on themselves or their deficiencies, when all women really want from them is for them to be better listeners.

Nice guys and relationships can be a successful pairing, provided that these guys don't think "nice" is what is the problem. The real problem with their relationships so far is their lack of confidence or communication and listening skills. Don't worry about yourself or the fact that you are somehow deficient. Instead, think about enjoying time with the women in your life. Better interactions will just naturally arise from doing this in ways you might not have thought possible as a "nice guy."