Everyday thousands (if not millions) of men get frustrated by the fact that for some reason or the other, their partners do not want to have sex with them. There are plenty of reasons why your woman may not be `in the mood'. For instance, it's a fact that most women don't reach an orgasm during intercourse so this `sexual frustration' may result in her not wanting to have sex as much as you do. It can also be that she's really just too tired and stressed out.

For starters, let's address the `too tired and stressed out' reason for not wanting to engage in lovemaking. If you think about it; this is really not surprising at all. Consider your woman's day. Most likely, she's the one who woke up first to prepare breakfast, went to work or stayed home and took care of the kids and addressed their needs, and at the end of the day, she still has to cook, sort out the bills, do the laundry... well, you get the picture: she's had along and tough day!

As such, it's not surprising at all that her mind and body are not excited by the though of lovemaking. So what do you do? There are many ways you can help to relieve her of this tiredness and stress. And when you do this, not only do you show her that you appreciate her but this `break' will make her appreciate YOU too. And you know how we women show our appreciation, right?

2 Easy Ways to Give Her a `Break'

If you want your woman to be willing and ready when you want to make love, then you have to do your share in ensuring that her mind and body are stimulated towards lovemaking. And this will not happen if she's tired and stressed out.

Tonight, You're in Charge
It's almost unfair but it doesn't really take much for us women to be `grateful' to our partners. A small gesture here and there easily melts our hearts. One of the easiest things you can do for her is to simply give her a night off.

Tell her that tonight, you'll take care of dinner. If you can't cook, go out or have some food brought in. To up the `suspense', don't tell her your plans. Even if it's take-out pizza, a nice bottle of wine with it and lighted scented candles already transports her (and you!) to a romantic, un-stressful place.

If you have kids, you can send them off for a night at grandma and grandpa's place or simple take charge and ensure you're the one who gives them their baths, helps them brush their teeth and puts them to bed... all while she's downstairs having a sip of wine and watching her favorite movie or just reading.

By the time you join her, she'll be so grateful that you shouldn't be surprised if she makes the moves on you!

Give Her a Day-Off
If there's one thing I never advocate it's this: routines! So after giving her a few nights off here and there, go all out and say "Honey, on [date], why don't you take a whole day just for yourself." Whatever she wants, she should just go out and do it!

There are so many benefits to this that I don't know how to start so let me just share with you what one of my clients said to me after they tried this.

"...I never knew this ONE change will do our relationship and sex life such wonders! At first, Sheila (real name withheld for privacy) didn't know what to do with herself on her `day off' but she got in touch with an old friend and they started going to the gym together, and then spending the rest of the day doing `girlie stuff'. The snowball affect is that going to the gym made her think and prioritize how she looked again; looking good made her more confident; and this confidence is (she later realized) exactly what she needed to be more `alive' in the bedroom. She's so confident now that we even talk about our sexual fantasies... and how to fulfill them!"

Sometimes, just giving her that time for herself - whether she likes it or not at the start - is what she needs to make her focus on other stuff other than the house, work and/or kids. And by focusing on herself, she's more in tune with her body too. And not only that; by giving her time to de-stress means that she's more than ready to welcome any sexual advances from you!