Relationship With Someone Who Is Not Affectionate
http://www.relationadvice.com/articles/4341/1/Relationship-With-Someone-Who-Is-Not-Affectionate/Page1.html
rodrigo rehn
Rodrigo Rehn is a Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating. By rodrigo rehn
Published on 10/31/2008
Are you in a relationship with someone who does not necessarily liked to be touched much? We all know that everyone is just a bit different.
Are you in a relationship with someone who does not necessarily liked to be touched much? We all know that everyone is just a bit different about how much they like to be touched, how affectionate they are, and when they like affection but nothing is worse than being in a relationship where you are very different.
If you have found that you are in a relationship with someone who is not affectionate you need to deal with this matter instead of just ignoring it. Affection is one of those things that most people have a real need for and you shouldn't just deny yourself this need.
Is the person your dating one of those people who doesn't need to be hugged or kissed often? Do they often get irritated with you for trying to hold them after sex or while they sleep? Do you try to snuggle up with them while you watch television only to find that they do not appreciate your affection? This can be really frustrating if you are an affectionate person and you need to address the problem.
Talk to the person that you are dating and let them know that you understand that they are not overly affection but you have a need to touch and be touched. Ask them when it is acceptable for you to try to snuggle up to them, when and how they like to be held and kissed. Many times it is just about finding a time or a moment when you are both comfortable with the affection. Let them know that you just love them and are attracted to them and you want to express these things to them through touch.
If your mate is not comfortable with touch at all let them know that you respect their feelings but you have needs, too. Tell them you don't want to make them uncomfortable but that you want to meet halfway so that both of you can have your needs met without either of you being uncomfortable. Hopefully your love interest will respond to this and you can talk about a way in which you can both get what you need without giving up too much of who you are or what you do and do not like.
If your mate is not willing to compromise you have to really consider if you are willing to give up a true human need to be with them. Not only do you not get to express the way that you feel through touch, you are not touched, and this can leave you feeling sad and unwanted. If your love interest is really not willing to change at all for you, you have to stop and consider whether or not this is the relationship for you.
If you have found that you are in a relationship with someone who is not affectionate you need to deal with this matter instead of just ignoring it. Affection is one of those things that most people have a real need for and you shouldn't just deny yourself this need.
Is the person your dating one of those people who doesn't need to be hugged or kissed often? Do they often get irritated with you for trying to hold them after sex or while they sleep? Do you try to snuggle up with them while you watch television only to find that they do not appreciate your affection? This can be really frustrating if you are an affectionate person and you need to address the problem.
Talk to the person that you are dating and let them know that you understand that they are not overly affection but you have a need to touch and be touched. Ask them when it is acceptable for you to try to snuggle up to them, when and how they like to be held and kissed. Many times it is just about finding a time or a moment when you are both comfortable with the affection. Let them know that you just love them and are attracted to them and you want to express these things to them through touch.
If your mate is not comfortable with touch at all let them know that you respect their feelings but you have needs, too. Tell them you don't want to make them uncomfortable but that you want to meet halfway so that both of you can have your needs met without either of you being uncomfortable. Hopefully your love interest will respond to this and you can talk about a way in which you can both get what you need without giving up too much of who you are or what you do and do not like.
If your mate is not willing to compromise you have to really consider if you are willing to give up a true human need to be with them. Not only do you not get to express the way that you feel through touch, you are not touched, and this can leave you feeling sad and unwanted. If your love interest is really not willing to change at all for you, you have to stop and consider whether or not this is the relationship for you.