Ending a Relationship
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Francis Hosein
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Published on 01/8/2009
Ending a relationship from a long relationship to a small one hurt as much when you are old or young
Pain does not have prejudice with it the only job it know is to give hurt where it is created
Ending a relationship from a long relationship to a small one hurt as much when you are old or young.
Pain does not have prejudice with it the only job it know is to give hurt where it is created.
The shock
Imagine the shock you get when you are told by someone you love and have been with for a while that it is over and that they are not happy and they feel that they have tried to make it work and they have reach a conclusion that it is not working.
Willing to do whatever
You may find yourself saying or doing things that you would not really do because you feel desperate to win back at any cost your mate even if it means losing your self esteem.
At one moment you may feel that you would sell your soul if only that person would come back and everything can be as it was before.
Emotions up and down
Your emotions may go up and down from feelings of abandonment, sadness, pain in the solar plexus to anger and this may happen within an hour.
Desire to hide
You may feel that you would rather sleep than face reality because it hurts too much to think about.
Every time you think of the good times you had together it hurts and you do not know how to stop the pain.
What to do now
How do you go on from here it may seem that your life is empty without the other.
You did so many things together and went many place, everything you touch brings a memory of the time together.
How to start over
If may feel that it will be difficult to start over or that life is finish without your partner and yes you are right the life you new is finish and a new one begins.
Making a decision
You can hate the decision your partner made and not the person for making their decision.
Blaming the other person because of your choice to stay in the relationship does not help you to get through with your healing if anything it keeps you more connected.
Creating value
Taking the time to create value from your experience can help you to get pass the hurts and allow you to grow.
Getting support from therapy, family and good friends are part of the steps you can take to get through this difficult moment.
Because someone decided not to be with you any longer does not mean that you are not worthy of happiness, it only means not with that person.
How you choose
The only person you can control is you and how you choose to deal with the ending of your relationship can help you by having emotional integrity to the situation.
This means is to not abuse you nor put down the other person for their choice.
Conclusion : Ending a relationship may not be an easy decision for the person who decided to make that choice.
Pain does not have prejudice with it the only job it know is to give hurt where it is created.
The shock
Imagine the shock you get when you are told by someone you love and have been with for a while that it is over and that they are not happy and they feel that they have tried to make it work and they have reach a conclusion that it is not working.
Willing to do whatever
You may find yourself saying or doing things that you would not really do because you feel desperate to win back at any cost your mate even if it means losing your self esteem.
At one moment you may feel that you would sell your soul if only that person would come back and everything can be as it was before.
Emotions up and down
Your emotions may go up and down from feelings of abandonment, sadness, pain in the solar plexus to anger and this may happen within an hour.
Desire to hide
You may feel that you would rather sleep than face reality because it hurts too much to think about.
Every time you think of the good times you had together it hurts and you do not know how to stop the pain.
What to do now
How do you go on from here it may seem that your life is empty without the other.
You did so many things together and went many place, everything you touch brings a memory of the time together.
How to start over
If may feel that it will be difficult to start over or that life is finish without your partner and yes you are right the life you new is finish and a new one begins.
Making a decision
You can hate the decision your partner made and not the person for making their decision.
Blaming the other person because of your choice to stay in the relationship does not help you to get through with your healing if anything it keeps you more connected.
Creating value
Taking the time to create value from your experience can help you to get pass the hurts and allow you to grow.
Getting support from therapy, family and good friends are part of the steps you can take to get through this difficult moment.
Because someone decided not to be with you any longer does not mean that you are not worthy of happiness, it only means not with that person.
How you choose
The only person you can control is you and how you choose to deal with the ending of your relationship can help you by having emotional integrity to the situation.
This means is to not abuse you nor put down the other person for their choice.
Conclusion : Ending a relationship may not be an easy decision for the person who decided to make that choice.