Have you ever experience breaking up that was helpful for you, to see that your decision for either one to leave help both of you find the right person or did it creating a feeling of being stuck and you just don’t know how to move on.

Getting out of blame

In the beginning you may find yourself doing a lot of blaming you may not want to and yet you may do so to justify why it did not work.

In the moment of blaming you may also have feelings still for the person.

To start healing is to get out of the blaming even if the other person was to do so with you for that is not taking responsibility for what went wrong and saying that the other was at fault.

Feeling the emotions

When you experience breaking up it comes with a lot of emotional pain that is difficult to avoid, for some attempt to avoid them by getting busy with their work others find someone else right away so they do not hurt.

Feeling the pain is what makes you much stronger, it give you more compassion of not hurting another and becoming clearer about what you want.

With breaking up comes sadness, abandonment, feeling that your life is just ended and the feeling of lost follow by anger for allowing the person into your life and investing a lot of time with that person only for them to break up when you were hoping that the relationship could of gotten stronger.

Breaking habits

Breaking the habits of not knowing what you want and attracting the wrong people in your life can be difficult and painful while you are attempting to understand yourself and your needs.

Choosing to change

Choosing to change is giving you the strength to know that you both did the best you can with what you knew and where you are at emotionally and breaking up does not take away form that which you are as a person.

Take a stand to not allow a relationship or a person determines your self worth because your self worth is greater than that.

For many feel worthless and do not see or feel that they have anything to offer in a relationship that is why the other broke up, so they say to themselves.

Taking the lessons

To heal yourself and learn to find closure with your break up is to take the lessons you can gain from your relationship when you can do this you are really in a place of healing.

There are always lessons to learn from each relationship some are negative and some are positive and this can help you along the way to the right person for you.

If you find yourself attracting the same type of person in your life it is because you have not learned the lessons.

Getting support

When you are in the moment of a break up it is helpful to get support from family or friends that you can confide in.

Not everyone wants to hear you complaining all the time or talking about your break up so it is wise to choose one or two people who will be able to listen and not judge you, if this is not possible going to therapy can help also.

When will the pain end you ask, depends on you getting started on living your life.

Creating a new future

This is the step that for many has difficulty with, which is to let go and move on by choosing to create a new future for you.

Fear of letting go may feel as if you do not care or it brings to light the reality that you are going through a break up that is hard to face, or that the person did not truly love you because how could they once love you and know decide to break up.

Taking a stand to putting you first and not the other person or the relationship is a process of loving yourself.

Conclusion : Experiencing breaking up can last a life time for some people when they are stuck and do not know how to move on.