Ex Boyfriend Wants to Be Friends... But I Still Love Him
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Anthony Malibu
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Published on 02/3/2010
What does it mean when your ex boyfriend just wants to be friends Is he really looking for friendship, or is he letting you down easy
What does it mean when your ex boyfriend just wants to be friends? Is he really looking for friendship, or is he letting you down easy? If your relationship ended before you wanted it to and you're looking to win your boyfriend back, you'll need to avoid the friendship trap.
"Let's be friends..." It's the ultimate euphemism. When a guy tells you these three little words, it's almost always a kiss off. Your boyfriend isn't looking to score more friends, much less a female friend who he's already dated. So when your ex springs this line on you during the break up? You'll need to know exactly how to handle it.
There are two types of breakups: fast and slow. A quick, instant break will always result in your boyfriend walking away. There won't be any phone calls, text-messages, emails... your ex will move on very coldly, almost as if he never knew you. This type of breakup can really hurt, but the pain won't last forever. And if this is how your ex broke things off? He's probably looking to move on. There are still some very unique methods you can use to get him back, but you'll have to learn how to play upon his existing emotional bonds and attachments for you.
The second type of breakup is initiated when your ex boyfriend offers to remain friends after the relationship ends. In this scenario, he's doing this because he's not 100% sure about breaking up. He still wants you around, in case he decides to change his mind. At the same time however, he wants you to keep your distance... and if you get too close, he'll not-so-subtly remind you that you're now "just friends".
In all honesty your guy is probably looking to move on, which is why you need to act fast. He wants to go out, date other people, and see what else is out there. Simultaneously, he wants you to hang around and NOT do anything. To hear you've moved on with someone else would actually crush him. The last thing a guy wants after he breaks up with you is to watch you dating a new boyfriend before he has a chance to get a new girlfriend. This would shatter his ego, and in some ways, actually make him want you back.
For this exact reason, you absolutely cannot be friends with your ex. Do this, and you're always going to fall into a platonic friendship instead of an actual romance. Want to win your boyfriend back and someday date him again? If so, you have to decline his offer when your ex boyfriend wants to be friends. Because you still love him, you can't settle for anything less than an actual relationship.
By telling your ex you can't be friends with him, he's going to immediately need to make a decision: do I risk losing her for good, or should I reconsider the break up? Most guys, when faced with this decision, will re-evaluate a future relationship with you. If your ex has love for you, he's not going to want to lose you. This is especially true if he's relying on daily - although 'friendly' - contact with you right now.
The fact that your ex boyfriend wants to be friends is a good sign, but you'll still need to be proactive if you want him back. There are many other aspects involved in winning him over, and you'll need a step by step plan. The more you know, the better your chances. Getting your ex to want you back can be easy, if you learn the process ahead of time.
"Let's be friends..." It's the ultimate euphemism. When a guy tells you these three little words, it's almost always a kiss off. Your boyfriend isn't looking to score more friends, much less a female friend who he's already dated. So when your ex springs this line on you during the break up? You'll need to know exactly how to handle it.
There are two types of breakups: fast and slow. A quick, instant break will always result in your boyfriend walking away. There won't be any phone calls, text-messages, emails... your ex will move on very coldly, almost as if he never knew you. This type of breakup can really hurt, but the pain won't last forever. And if this is how your ex broke things off? He's probably looking to move on. There are still some very unique methods you can use to get him back, but you'll have to learn how to play upon his existing emotional bonds and attachments for you.
The second type of breakup is initiated when your ex boyfriend offers to remain friends after the relationship ends. In this scenario, he's doing this because he's not 100% sure about breaking up. He still wants you around, in case he decides to change his mind. At the same time however, he wants you to keep your distance... and if you get too close, he'll not-so-subtly remind you that you're now "just friends".
In all honesty your guy is probably looking to move on, which is why you need to act fast. He wants to go out, date other people, and see what else is out there. Simultaneously, he wants you to hang around and NOT do anything. To hear you've moved on with someone else would actually crush him. The last thing a guy wants after he breaks up with you is to watch you dating a new boyfriend before he has a chance to get a new girlfriend. This would shatter his ego, and in some ways, actually make him want you back.
For this exact reason, you absolutely cannot be friends with your ex. Do this, and you're always going to fall into a platonic friendship instead of an actual romance. Want to win your boyfriend back and someday date him again? If so, you have to decline his offer when your ex boyfriend wants to be friends. Because you still love him, you can't settle for anything less than an actual relationship.
By telling your ex you can't be friends with him, he's going to immediately need to make a decision: do I risk losing her for good, or should I reconsider the break up? Most guys, when faced with this decision, will re-evaluate a future relationship with you. If your ex has love for you, he's not going to want to lose you. This is especially true if he's relying on daily - although 'friendly' - contact with you right now.
The fact that your ex boyfriend wants to be friends is a good sign, but you'll still need to be proactive if you want him back. There are many other aspects involved in winning him over, and you'll need a step by step plan. The more you know, the better your chances. Getting your ex to want you back can be easy, if you learn the process ahead of time.