When your boyfriend said he needed some space, your mind went blank and all you could do is watch as the man you love walked away. Now all you can think of is getting him back after the breakup. You try to think what could have caused him to stop loving you, but you cannot think of anything you have said or done that would make him want to treat you this way. Your friends and relatives have all been ready with advice, but they all tell you to let him go and find someone else. That is easier said than done because you cannot just stop loving the man you had hoped to be with the rest of your life. Anyway, your heart aches and you cannot stop crying long enough to think of what is best to do. If this is the situation you find yourself in now, here are some crucial steps to regain his love.

There are many ways to get him back after the breakup, but having others intercede for you is not one of them. Many women make the mistake of asking mutual friends to talk to him on their behalf. Some will even go so far as to ask his parents to reason with him, but this can be a real relationship ender. Your ex may consider what happened between the two of you to be very personal and if he finds that you have been sharing intimate details of your relationship with oth ers, he might resent it and hold it against you forever. Whatever the problem or whoever was mainly at fault for the breakup should remain between the two of you and if you get back together, it will have to be by mutual agreement and without any outside interference.

A crucial step to regain his love is to show him that you agree with the split and that you are mature and strong enough to go on with your life. This will require you to pick up the things you used to do before you met your ex. If you were active in volunteer work, get active again. If you used to belong to an exercise club, renew your membership. There might be something that has always interested you but you never got around to doing; if so, now is the time to do it. When you keep active doing things you like to do, it is much easier to keep from obsessing on getting him back after the breakup. Your ex will be aware of how you are handling yourself and he will be impressed.

By resisting the natural instinct to go crying, clawing, and fighting to get your ex back, you are gaining your composure and you are giving him time to think about what happened. You have also avoided doing any more damage to the broken relationship. If you can continue to keep control and have no contact with him, your boyfriend will see that life without you is not so good and you will regain his love.