The aftermath of a breakup is filled with all kinds of emotions. Your first emotion is usually confusion. You wonder what you did to upset the man you love so much that he would want to end the relationship. The confusion turns to heartbreak, when you begin to face the prospect of facing a future without him and then you feel that mending the relationship is hopeless. If you are going through these emotions and if you are about to give up getting your ex back, check out these clues first and things might not seem as dark after all.

When you are trying to figure out what caused the breakup, think back over the past few weeks and see if your ex had changed in his attitude toward you. Perhaps you will notice that he had been spending less time with you and he seemed to find fault with a lot of little things that did not seem to matter to him before. How many times did he say he loved you over that time period. It might surprise you to discover that he hardly said he loved you at all. Next, think of what you might have said or done that you regretted saying as soon as it was out of your mouth. He might not have shown his hurt outwardly, but he might be nursing it inside.

Women often forget that men can be quite j uvenile at times and when they are hurt, instead of lashing out as you might do, he will want to go somewhere and hide where he can pout and be alone to feel sorry for himself. This is why it is so important to let him have his time alone to get over it. He still loves you, but as well as healing his hurt feelings, this is his way of punishing you for hurting him. If it has been a while since the breakup, he is probably having second thoughts about it, and he will be trying to figure out a way to get you back without seeming to be crawling and losing his macho image.

If it has been several weeks since the breakup, you can give him the opening he needs to mend fences without being a wimp. Send him an email and tell him you are sorry for anything you did or said that might have hurt him. Do not beg forgiveness or go into any lengthy explanations. Just a short email of apology should be enough to get things started back in the right direction.

Since you have opened the avenue of communication, he will feel that he is not lowering himself if he calls you. When he does call, do not begin crying at the sound of his voice, remain calm and try your best to be cheerful. It might take him a couple of calls, but soon he will be asking for a date and you will get your ex back without either one of you losing your dignity.