The hardest part of getting back together with an ex boyfriend is always proper communication. Should you call him? If so, when? What do you say to your ex when you finally do begin speaking to him again? All of these things are an important part of winning your boyfriend back, and if done improperly, could push him away for good.

You see, losing your boyfriend to an unwanted breakup puts you in a very unique position. You probably want him back, but at the same time, you don't know how to get him. Everything you seem to do only serves to push him away, and no matter what you've said to your ex he still doesn't seem interested in getting back together.

So what do you do when your ex boyfriend isn't responding to you? Is there a way of making your ex need you in his life again, so that he wants you back?

The short answer to that question is a resounding YES. The longer answer involves the reconciliation process, which can be complicated if you don't know what to do. In theory, you can win back your ex boyfriend rather simply. But in practice, the stumbling blocks most women face cause them to trip up and make mistakes... decreasing their chances of ever seriously dating their ex again.

For example, did you call your boyfriend after the break up? If so, how long did you wait? Chances are good you walked away from the breakup tearfully, went home, and then thought of a hundred different things you wanted to say. You probably called your boyfriend with this new line of thinking, and he didn't seem the least bit interested in hearing what you'd come up with.

If that scenario sounds familiar, don't worry about it right now. First of all, you're certainly not alone. And although that wasn't the right move to make, there are still ways of making up for these type of early mistakes.

If your ex boyfriend is not responding to you right after the relationship ends, it's because he feels weirded out and strange around you right now. He needs time to process the breakup, face his own thoughts of being alone, and even reconcile certain feelings and emotional bonds he has toward you. All of that stuff is WORK. Which might be why you see him out and about, surrounded by friends, and seemingly having a good time without you. It's not that your ex boyfriend doesn't still love you... of course he does. But right now? He's preoccupying himself with distractions so he doesn't have to think about the break up.

Most women take this the wrong way. They feel as if their ex boyfriend has moved on without them... and quickly too. Because of this they harbor bitterness and resentment - they begin to take the break up personally, as a personal attack against them. This is a mistake, because whenever you feel this way you're giving off massive vibes of desperation and neediness that will always send your ex screaming in the opposite direction.

Understand something: the more you respond to the breakup... the more you chase your ex boyfriend, get angry at him, curse him out, or even show up places you know he might be? The more you do all of these things? The more comfortable your ex feels in breaking up with you.

Interestingly enough, just the opposite is true. The less attention you give your ex after he ends the relationship, the faster he'll come back to you. Not calling, not texting, and not even looking your boyfriend's way? This is one of the quickest ways to get him interested again. Suddenly your ex wants to know why you're not chasing him. He wants to know what's so important that you're not even trying to fight to keep the relationship alive. These things will bruise to his ego, and he won't like them one bit. He'll also respect you for not going to pieces, and for doing your own thing.

Want to win back your ex boyfriend? You'll need a step by step plan. Only be being proactive about the end of your relationship can you position yourself for a successful reunion.