If Your Boyfriend Says He Needs Time - This is What You Should Do Fast
- By H.L. Archer
- Published 04/23/2010
- Relationships
- Unrated
When your boyfriend tells you he needs a break or space, you feel that is the end of the relationship. But if he is the love of your life, you will not want to let him go so easily. The problem will usually be that you let your emotions rule and push him farther away. If you want to get your ex back, this is what you should do fast.
Your instincts will tell you to beg him to stay, and this is just what he expects you to do. Bursting into tears and saying you love him at this time gives him control of the situation and he knows that he can take as long as he pleases and you will be sitting around waiting for his call. If you let him get this smug, you may never get him back and if you do, he will never treat you with the respect you deserve. This is a crucial time for your relationship. The way you react to his wanting a break could mean the difference in a happy future with the man you love or a future of wondering what might have been. It all depends on your actions now.
When your boyfriend says he needs time, you have to put a smile on your face and tell him you agree. If you can hold back the tears long enough, add that you have been thinking the same thing for quite a w
hile. Then get him out the door before you fall apart. You cannot let him see even one little tear. Since he was ready to see you put up a fight, he will be stunned to hear you agree and will want to get somewhere alone to think these developments over.
Now, it is important to not weaken. Do not attempt to contact him in any way. You have him bewildered and wondering why he feels as if it was him that got dumped, so do not let up. Ignore him completely and move on. Stay active by reconnecting with your family. Go out with your girlfriends for a good time. When he hears about what you are doing, he will think that you have forgotten all about him and you are looking for someone new. It will be his turn to want to chase after you and beg your forgiveness.
He will call you and want to meet you for a talk, but do not be too eager. Tell him you are pretty busy and you will have to get back to him. Do not be in any hurry to call him back and arrange a meeting. Try to make him call again. This will keep you in control and make him feel that he will have to win you back. When you do meet him, be sure to have your emotions in check and let him do most of the talking. Let him tell you what he has been feeling and this will lead to a better understanding and a stronger relationship.
Your instincts will tell you to beg him to stay, and this is just what he expects you to do. Bursting into tears and saying you love him at this time gives him control of the situation and he knows that he can take as long as he pleases and you will be sitting around waiting for his call. If you let him get this smug, you may never get him back and if you do, he will never treat you with the respect you deserve. This is a crucial time for your relationship. The way you react to his wanting a break could mean the difference in a happy future with the man you love or a future of wondering what might have been. It all depends on your actions now.
When your boyfriend says he needs time, you have to put a smile on your face and tell him you agree. If you can hold back the tears long enough, add that you have been thinking the same thing for quite a w
Now, it is important to not weaken. Do not attempt to contact him in any way. You have him bewildered and wondering why he feels as if it was him that got dumped, so do not let up. Ignore him completely and move on. Stay active by reconnecting with your family. Go out with your girlfriends for a good time. When he hears about what you are doing, he will think that you have forgotten all about him and you are looking for someone new. It will be his turn to want to chase after you and beg your forgiveness.
He will call you and want to meet you for a talk, but do not be too eager. Tell him you are pretty busy and you will have to get back to him. Do not be in any hurry to call him back and arrange a meeting. Try to make him call again. This will keep you in control and make him feel that he will have to win you back. When you do meet him, be sure to have your emotions in check and let him do most of the talking. Let him tell you what he has been feeling and this will lead to a better understanding and a stronger relationship.
H.L. Archer
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